Repairing Ruptures Workshop
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unknownWhat to expect?
Save your relationships by learning how to navigate conflict and repair harm.
As a human, you will unintentionally cause harm because of miscommunication, misinterpretation, assumptions, or blank spots. When this happens, society resorts to shame, blame and punishment, but the cause of the harm is rarely investigated. So, you have learned to avoid conflicts and evade ruptures.
In addition, our hierarchical, dominating society allows those with greater privilege to deflect responsibility and avoid accountability by blaming those with less privilege. So we learn to avoid conflict by being polite and forgiving to those who hold greater power, privilege, and authority over us. Therefore, ruptures are rarely repaired, and we carry with us a backlog of resentments, shame, and wounds.
Now that you have the skills of listening and identifying your needs, the practice of self-compassion and self-forgiveness, and the foundation of respect and trust amongst workshop members, you can begin to examine and discuss the differences between
SHAME vs. REGRET
BLAME vs. RESPONSIBILITY
EXCUSES vs. ACCOUNTABILITY
Knowledge and Skills
Practice self-compassion & self-forgiveness with shame, blame, and deflection.
Learn the differences between shame & regret, blame & responsibility, excuses & accountability.
Explore shame gently and with resolve so that regret and remorse can emerge.
Identify blame in order to return to sender or set it aside so that you take responsibility only for your actions.
Let go of perfectionism and the excuses to avoid culpability so that you can genuinely offer a heart-felt apology that begins to repairs the harm you have caused.
What is a real apology?
An apology begins with the acknowledgement of the harm done; it centers the victim.
We use our emotional awareness to empathize and understand the impact of your actions on the recipient.
This will activate remorse (instead of shame & defensiveness) which will motivate you to take accountability and identify actions that will prevent repetition of the problematic behavior.
The final step is a request for forgiveness which the recipient may or may not be able to offer.
A heart-felt apology together with meaningful action helps to repair the harm we have caused.
These skills lay the foundations for rupture repair & rebuilding trust. These same steps also help discern whether your actions have caused harm or if blame and/or shame is directed to you.
This is how we deepen our intimacy, grow our trust, and further settle in to belonging and respect with ourselves and each other.
Structure
This workshop & study group requires a 1 month commitment.
WORKSHOP : 2-hr Zoom call
MENTORSHIP : Listening Partnership (R-LP) for week 1.
STUDY GROUP :
Weekly Listening Partnerships (LP) with Peers. Week 2-4.
Weekly reflections & check-ins. This is organized on the Mighty Network Platform in a private group space. Here, you add your weekly check-in and your prompt reflections. I will be giving feedback and guidance.
Peer Support. Your peers also provide support and encouragement either on MN or privately. All members have the responsibility to respond to other’s sharing. This is how we build circles of support.
Monthly Group Check-In. 1 hour Zoom call to see each other face to face and reflect on the journey of nurturing relationships.
Investment
Workshops require a minimum of 4 participants.
Ideally, there would be 1 Solidarity, 2 Full Cost, and 1 Pay-it-Forward. As always, I am open to discussion.
This minimum ensures fair compensation and sufficient members to practice with outside of class to reinforce your learning.
Please do the sliding scale quiz to tally your YES answers to apply to the Investment Chart below.
Sliding Scale Quiz
Workshop, Mentorship, Study Group for 2 months.
Solidarity : 37 BD/ 68 USD (4-5 YES) 
Full Cost : 49 BD/ 136 USD (6-7 YES)
Abundance : 86 BD/ 231 USD (8+ YES)
Suggested minimum investment.
Please let your investment reflect your abundance so that those at or below solidarity level can access my services.
* If you answered yes to 0 – 3 questions please contact me to explore alternatives
I am also open to discuss investment plans and exchanges.
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How have these workshops helped you?
Patience, the ability to actually hear what some one ‘s saying with out formulating a response in my head, the realisation that most people do not listen, and I need to be extra aware of that.
How has this experience changed communication ?
It has really started to benefit my personal life and specifically my relationship with my partner and closest friends as I have used the techniques learned here to better hear and communicate with them.
Anonymous
Bahrain
Did these workshops meet your expectations ? I didn’t have any expectations to be very honest. I was always wondering and was eager to learn what teaching can help me with parenting my children… As days, weeks passed 1 realised that wow this is really new knowledge to me, and I was and still am happy by the learning I have gained
What did you find beneficial ? Practicing, reflecting on posts or issues [within the study group] added so much value.
Anonymous
Oman
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